If you want to get to the core of an issue, there’s one simple rule: dealing with it should feel hard. Why? Because you’ve had a block around it that you need to simply delve into – but have been putting it off because of a negative association (e.g., fear of the consequences).
However, once you’re in the discussion – or, possibly when it’s over, it should feel much easier. A weight will have been lifted.
Action: If there’s something you’ve been avoiding, you’ll feel better if you simply face it. Breathe into it. And read part 3.
Part 3: An easy exercise to deal with a difficult problem.
I just saw a blog post put on a LinkedIn group to which I belong. It followed the correct marketing structure to grab people’s attention – “5 Ways to…” – and had a title that pulled in attention: “5 ways to Take the Anxiety Out of Public Speaking.” Now, since I coach clients on this every day, I was intrigued to see how someone else would do it. Was it different than my work? Effective?
Unfortunately, I was quite disappointed. The author suggested that a nervous speaker simply make sure to include standard speech components, like a strong structure, to alleviate nervousness, and to only make eye contact with the “friendly” faces. But to someone who’s nervous, this false reassurance does bupkus (Yiddish for “zilch”). They’re still freaked out.
Part 2: How can we address core issues, rather than a polite nod toward them? How does true transformation happen?