Posts Tagged ‘personal growth’
Another tip on how to truly living in a state of love:
Source your power from the heavens and the earth – not from other people, as was discussed here. That is, if you want to get approval from others, and rely upon them for validation, you’re then in a push-and-pull dynamic. Sometimes it may feel good, but it’s also fairly guaranteed to swing the other way. Instead, do a grounding exercise (a previous post). Once you realize you have a constant source of energy and support, you can let go of the need for others’ energy.
Now, don’t confuse this with a desire to “detach” from others. Being in relationship (be it romantic or platonic) is wonderful. But it’s important to know that the true source of love from something far greater than another person.
Recently, on Valentine’s Day, we looked at the idea of being in a state of love – rather than falling in or out of it. The obvious question is… how? Yes, it’s easier to say than do. Let’s delve into this.
Focus on what you have to offer – not what you want in return. If you’re focused on reciprocation, your love is conditional. Now, this doesn’t mean you should just give and give until you’re depleted. That just means you’re without self-care. It’s a matter of focusing on giving from the heart.
But you can also give from the heart to yourself. Start when you’re alone. Visualize breathing in and out of your heart, per the heart breathing technique discussed previously. But this time, direct it toward yourself. When you exhale, instead of just giving outward, breathe from your heart into your entire being.
More techniques coming in part 2.
So, do you ever feel like dally back and forth between trying to motivate yourself to do what you should, and then rebel against it? Those “shoulds” are nasty creatures, aren’t they? They do their best to keep us in line. However, even if we “know better,” another part of ourselves is unhappy. It wants to be FREE!
…but “free” can also mean unstructured and even lost at sea.
Rather than having an internal process of hierarchy and rebellion, look at having a more “democratic” system. Imagine that you can have an internal dialogue – perhaps a conference – where all of you can discuss what you need.
Action: When you feel yourself clamping down on part of your life, or trying to force you to do something – or, when you find yourself rebelling and want to take an action that might not be of your highest good, have an imaginary talk with it. Ask it what it really needs to be happy, and what would bring greater fulfillment.
Some amazing change has been happening around the world – Mubarak in Egypt, plus Tunisia, and now the possibility of regime change with Qaddafi in Libya.
How might this be a metaphor for our inner dynamics?
Well, have you ever “forced” yourself to do anything? Made yourself eat right… go to work when you didn’t want to… go to the dentist… or anything else where, perhaps, all of you wasn’t totally on board?
And have you ever followed this up with a “rebellion,” with a decadent food binge, or maybe calling in sick to work?
This might seem like a silly metaphor, but it’s representative of our relationship with ourselves. Ideally, we want to feel truly motivated to do what what we know we should, without having to push ourselves.
Next: strategies to shift this dynamic.