Last week we looked at anger, the idea of lack and disempowerment, and how to find true energy from our source rather than from someone else (read part 1, part 2, and part 3 if you haven’t yet). Today, though, we’ll approach anger in a different way.

Essentially, you can boil down anger as having a couple of different possibilities: being stuck in a struggle, or as a motivating force to push us into a new place. For the former, you might be angry at someone (say, a relative, or someone you work with), and unhappy with something that happened. Or maybe you’re unhappy with an aspect of your life.

But is this necessarily a bad thing? No. Anger is a sign that you’d like something to change. What’s the difference between anger as struggle and anger as motivation? Simply changing your mindset. The thing is, you can’t change the past. If someone apologizes for a past action, it might return energy to you, but it doesn’t give you what you truly want: to set a new course for the future.

Action: Think of something that’s upset you as of late, either interpersonally or in your own life. Get in touch with what you’d like to be different – and take steps in that direction right away.