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daily inspiration: speak your truth (part 1)

Posted on: February 17, 2011

Today’s daily inspiration, admitting and declaring the truth, is unto itself quite simple – but it easily gets complicated and burdened with “add-ons” (which we’ll discuss).

Let’s begin, though with a question: do you fully, completely, speak your entire truth?

Most people (except for, say, New Yorkers) tell, well, little white lies. Sometimes we just omit a few things, like leaving out that pesky detail that might hurt someone’s feelings, or make us look bad. Perhaps we avoid confrontation altogether, so that we don’t need to say what’s really on our mind. Or we’re afraid of being judged or rejected ourselves.

When we’re not honest and direct, we divert energy away. Which means that we’re choosing to not let transformation happen. Change happens when we put the truth out there fully and completely. When we hedge around and don’t say what we really think or feel, whatever we don’t want will remain.

Part 2: What happens when we don’t tell ourselves the truth?

 

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5 Responses to "daily inspiration: speak your truth (part 1)"

Jonathan : I love that you are writing about this. You’re definitely on to something here. As you say, very often we withhold the truth — and there’s often much benefit (to speaker and listener) when we are courageous and DO NOT hold back. AND, I would also say there are times when telling 100% of everything that’s flowing through our mind/emotions at that particular moment may not be the highest good. Distinguishing the difference is part of the yoga of life, IMHO.

Oh, and by the way — the biggest withhold most people have is withheld LOVE. You mention New Yorkers — and yes people from that part of our country are classically viewed as being able to more easily and willingly vocalize unpleasant things. However, they are perhaps LESS able than, say, Californians to express the tender, intimate, loving feelings and thoughts that we ALSO all have about each other. And that’s a version of “not telling the truth,” too.

~Richard

Thanks for this, Rich! Great words. And yes, you’re right – and it’s important to distinguish telling everything that’s in our head vs. telling the truth. The former is tantamount to verbal diarrhea, or oversharing, or T-M-I. I’m referring more to the difficult things that we tend to withhold, that truly need to be said.

And for New Yorkers – well, it’s been a while, but I am one! No particular way is right or wrong, and they’re not superior – and speaking too forcefully also has drawbacks. It’s just that Californians and Midwesterners tend to be, well, a bit too nice and polite at times. But everyone can look at their lives and ask: am I speaking and living my deepest truth?
-Jonathan

My pleasure Jonathan — thanks for starting the conversation… got me thinking and feeling.

As for those New Yorkers (yourself and others), it’s one thing to express critical/unflattering truths to people. But the truth is, the greatest withheld truths are 1) we are all afraid to some degree at some time and 2) we withhold love quite often. No lie!

~richard

PS: Jonathan, I did not mean to imply that you walk around indiscriminately dropping unflattering truths on people. In fact, my experience of you is entirely the opposite of “wantonly harsh.”

~richard

Rich – the best response to that is LOL – didn’t think you meant that (the latter comment). But appreciated! 🙂

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