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OK, you really want inhabit a state of love? Like, all the time? Want to know exactly what to do? Here goes:

  • Accept yourself as you are – yet also focus on yourself as the highest possible version of you. And live it.
  • Accept others as they are – and relate with the highest version of them, too.
  • Forgive your shortcomings quickly – but also strive to make improvements.
  • Do small things that bring you joy every day.
  • Don’t put off what you need to do.
  • Be thankful. Do a gratitude practice daily… more than daily. Thank the Universe for not just all that you have, but all that you haven’t even seen yet.
  • With every single thing that happens, let it be your teacher. Look for how it can help you grow. Trust.
  • Take yourself just a wee bit less seriously.

Do it… I dare you.

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When I first started the thread on anger, I didn’t realize there would be quite so much to say. One important element that hasn’t yet been discussed: what happens when we bottle up anger? Or, when we simply let anger stew in our system unprocessed?

  1. It suppresses the immune system. Some say it can cause certain kinds of cancer.
  2. It creates a victim mentality. Other people are to blame, and we can’t take action. (Think about how you feel when driving.)
  3. If we can’t take action, it’s actually disempowering.

To reiterate – it’s healthy and human to feel angry. It’s caused by trying to get our power back, and can be a positive motivating force. However, it’s essential to process it. Whether through…

…choose to let it be an empowering force. Don’t let it stagnate your life. Instead, take its guidance and allow it to transform your life for the better.

So now we have a fuller understanding of the difficulties and obstacles to speaking the truth, or telling to ourselves. So – solutions!

Actions:

  1. Speak from your perspective, and acknowledge that it’s not The Ultimate Truth. By saying, “I feel” or “From my perspective…” it allows others to hear you better.
  2. Disconnect your truth from judgment. Remember – your “truth” is likely not a fact. By stating it cleanly and simply, it creates room for someone else to hear more.
  3. When talking to others, say what feels like the essence. There’s a difference between saying what needs to be said, and processing/thinking out loud.
  4. If you feel yourself not wanting to admit something – to someone or even to yourself – that’s a sign that you’re not in touch with the deeper meaning of things. Try writing out several possibilities of what it could mean – and look for what gives you the biggest feeling of relief.
  5. No matter what… be kind. To yourself, and to whomever else you speak.

When you have said the real deal, you’ll attract to your life what you want – and ready the way for it to come.

In part 1 we discovered that we get angry because we feel disempowered, and in part 2 we saw that we can choose to draw our power from other sources. Here’s an exercise to do this.

  1. Plant your feet on the floor, relax your body, and close your eyes.
  2. Consider a situation or person that recently caused anger to arise. Pay attention to the solar plexus region. Note any constriction or tension.
  3. Breathe deeply into the solar plexus. Send it the message, “This is not your job to worry about. You can let go, and let me take charge.”
  4. Visualize sending roots down, through your body, deep into the earth. Imagine energy surging through your body from the ground.
  5. Now send a root or cord up into the sky. See energy coursing down through you from both above and below.
  6. Return your attention to the source of your anger. Try a statement, either to yourself or out loud, such as, “I see that I was trying to take power from you to feel better. I wish you your own empowerment, and that you can feel loved. I now ask the earth and the heavens to support and supply me with all I require.”

Alter as needed. And if you try it, as always, please leave a comment with your experience.

transforming anger

When we’re angry, we’re literally trying to get our power back from someone (or everyone) else. In a fight, whoever wins ends up with more energy, and the other person feels depleted.

What’s fundamentally wrong with this strategy is its unconscious assumption that we can only get energy from other people. However, your true Source is far beyond this plane. It’s reminiscent of a favorite book from my youth, Flatland, a land inhabited by two-dimensional geometric shapes, which are disoriented when a sphere moves through its world. That is, we pay attention to just what or who is in front of us, rather than realizing that the picture is far greater than our immediate vision perceives.

Rather than sourcing from other people, we can draw energy up from the earth; this is why so many people feel energized from spending time in nature. Or, you can draw it down from the heavens. These limitless supplies provide more than we could ever need.

But we typically don’t see these. In a sense, anger is a reflection of lack. That is, someone else has treated us unfairly and it must be rectified, or we won’t be whole, or get our just due.

In part 3, we’ll try an exercise on how to shift this.

Among people involved in the personal development scene, anger gets a bad rap. Yes, I recently wrote on how to stop being angry and forgive. But it’s good to have a reminder as to why we feel angry, and how it functions, in order to make a more informed choice about how to deal with it.

Essentially, anger arises because we feel disempowered. Being angry is a way to get our power back.

For those interested in the energetics, this tends to happen in the third chakra, located in the solar plexus. This is the center of our power… and is why we can get an upset stomach if we’re nervous or distraught. (Regardless of your opinion on chakras, everyone knows the feeling of butterflies in the stomach, so go with that if nothing else.) Energetically, we are literally demanding our power back.

But the basic strategy for getting it usually doesn’t work. More details forthcoming in part 2.

the energetics of anger

Sometimes inspiration isn’t about creating an amazing feeling – it’s about letting go of the blocks that stand in our way. One of them… grudges. Anger. Negativity. Now, there’s nothing inherently wrong with anger – it’s about getting in touch with our own power. But it can get in the way of being happy and in touch with our inner love. Here are some ideas.

  1. Picture them as a small child, hurt, not knowing what to do.
  2. Take your image of that person and imagine it’s a million miles away, growing smaller and smaller.
  3. Spend time loving and appreciating yourself.
  4. Know that someone’s actions have little to do with you – they’re how we were trained to react.
  5. Invite them to the world you want to live in. Talk to them. Tell them what you’d like to be there in your relationship.

 

 


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