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Originally this series on the Law of Attraction had 4 parts. But I feel compelled to also add that it’s essential to give yourself a break. “You create your own reality” may be true, but it also heaves a heavy load of responsibility on your shoulders. So much of how we operate is dictated from subconscious beliefs and limiting structures. In fact, my view is that much of our conscious identity is constructed of “energetic habits,” energy structures, that were carried into this life and augmented while we’ve been here.

That being said, we can only change so much at once – especially since it’s hard to see ourselves objectively, as being human is by nature a subjective experience.

Action: Choose one area of your life at a time to slowly transform. Be clear about what you are creating… and also be patient. And keep practicing self-love – you’re the best friend you’ve got.


We’ve asked the question: Is the Law of Attraction real? And I’ve given a couple of examples. Yet you may have a difficult time believing in it – especially if you’ve had many struggles. It’s difficult to conceive of things being so radically different – or maybe you can only conceive of change happening in certain aspects of your life, and not in others.

So perhaps you’re choosing to be skeptical and not believe in the Law of Attraction… or limiting its scope. Guess what? You may in fact be creating your own limitations. Why? Because the following statement goes both ways:

Where your thoughts go, energy flows.

Now, this actually includes both thoughts and emotions – meaning that if you have a daily affirmation, but emotionally you are still stuck in an old feeling and belief – it’s not going to change. And by continuing to reinforce your belief that it’s not real, you simply make it not work for you.

Keep in mind – the Law of Attraction is simply the latest iteration of a practice that’s been around for thousands of years. It’s not new. But remember the essence:

You are a Co-Creator, along with Divine Source, of Your World.

Part 5: Is there an exception to the Law of Attraction? Am I responsible for absolutely everything?

Part 2 was one example of how it works… Need more? Here’s another great Law of Attraction story. I was just at a great networking event run by the incomparable Patrick Schwerdtfeger, a social media guru and international speaker. While chatting, we started discussing the Law of Attraction, and he mentioned that he’s spoken everywhere in the world he desires. His method?

“When I want to speak in a country, I pull out my smartphone,” Patrick told me. “I go to my weather app, and add that country as one of my saved locations. I then focus on that country every time I check the weather. Soon after, I’ll get a call for a speaking engagement there.” Aruba? Check. Cancun? Yup. India? Got it.

..By the way, speaking of IndiaI’ll be co-leading a two-week trip to India in January – a traveling spiritual workshop and journey – along with my partner Alicia Dattner (known for her comedic solo performance about her travels to India, Eat, Pray, Laugh! Want to join us? 

Part 4: The power of disbelieving.

A few weeks back I wrote a post asking whether the Law of Attraction was real. Part 2 was supposed to provide proof. Yes, it’s been a while, and no, I didn’t wait to respond because proof was lacking! Life these days is happily busy, and I’m missing blogging for you. So, finally, here’s the response.

Here are two particular cases. Most of my clients are spiritual entrepreneurs, including holistic practitioners – I love coaching them to step into their power and get more clients, because then I extend my reach to create more transformation in the world. I do, however, enjoy working with some corporate clients too. Last week on Monday I decided, “I’d like one more corporate coaching client.” Throughout the week, whenever I remembered, I sent a little message out to Divine Source, affirming this, in a clear way – with clarity and faith.

And on Friday, I received an inquiry from a great company I actually already admired, and we are starting work together this week! Proof? You decide for yourself.

Part 3: Another great example.

You may have heard of the Law of Attraction, which basically says that the energy we give off, and the thoughts and emotions we have, attract back to us what we ask for. But the process may be unconscious – it also means that fear attracts what we don’t want. A great quote I heard recently: “Fear is a prayer for what you don’t want.”

As well, if you are unclear with what you want, you will not receive back anything that is clear. Being unsure yields unsure results.

The opposite is also true: when you get very specific – and consistent – with what you desire, it comes back in spades.

But is it true? Is this all a bunch of New Age hooey?

Part 2: Proof.

I had a dream  recently where I was watching a play – not terribly surprising, since I’m a theater creator, director and performer (my other hat aside from being a coach). In the dream, I had watched the play more than once, always from the same seat. However, for some reason I needed to watch it again – from a new angle. So went to a different seat in the theater – and it looked dramatically different! Some characters loomed larger than others, and it was a completely different experience.

When we change our perspective, we radically alter our experience. Sometimes this happens dramatically, through a life-altering event; other times, we have a gradual shift, for better or worse.

Action: Think of something in your life that isn’t ideal. Look at it differently – perhaps by literally going to a real location you don’t normally visit, and thinking about it there . Or, imagine how someone else might deal with it – perhaps someone richer or poorer, with different color skin, or from another country. Your ideas about the situation are solely that – ideas. A new perspective will give you some fresh ones.

Passover, the 8th and last day of which is today, can be wrapped up with the word persistence. However,  when we are working to creatwhat does it take in order to keep our energy focused – especially when the odds seem tough?

  1. Support. This comes through connection with something greater than yourself. The most tangible form is through community. It’s essential to be aligned with others who believe in you. Meet regularly. Connect. Don’t go it alone. And, if you believe in a divine power, that’s another strong form of support.
  2. Clarity. Being clear about you desire is the best way to bring it into reality. Of course, sometimes we don’t know what form this will take. For example, you may know you want a new job, but don’t know exactly what you’ll be doing. In this case, it’s better to visualize yourself being happy, being in a positive atmosphere, and doing work that’s for the betterment of others (for example), than knowing your duties.
  3. Action. Don’t just sit on your duff, waiting for change to come to you. Try things! Even if they’re not right in the end, this process of elimination narrows down the possibilities to bring in what you truly desire.

Sometimes we need more personal support to make this happen. Please contact me if you’d like personal help with creating transformation in your life – we can schedule time to chat, free of charge, to look at how to move things in a wonderful new direction.

Regardless of your religious orientation, background or beliefs, may the  story of Passover inspire you to reexamine what needs to transform within your life, and find greater freedom, joy and vivacity wherever you go, and whatever you do.

How much persistence do you have when things are tough? You want to attract into your life something new? Great. How much do you call upon something greater – and continue to move forward even when there’s no sign of change?

Midrash (the oral learning tradition of the Jews) says that Red Sea didn’t simply part. Not until the Jews were so deep into the water that the water was literally up to their noses – not until then – did the seas part and allow the Jewish people to cross. Now that’s dedication.

If you want radical transformation in your life, the most important element is trust. Envision what you truly desire, and hold steadfast. Of course, it’s essential to make sure that what we desire is aligned with what’s in our highest good. But if so, we must hold steadfast.

Part 3: The three essential components needed for radical transformation to happen.

Sometimes it feels like we’re just stuck. Things have been as they are, and try as you might, nothing budges. (Even if you’re trying to use the Law of Attraction.) Or, perhaps something small does come about, but it’s so incremental that we don’t feel like we’re moving forward. Contextualize this, now, within Passover.

It took a leader – Moses – who was willing to let go of absolutely every privilege and possession. It required a lot of prayer, turning things over to something greater than an individual human being (or, even a people). And it took multiple actions from God – ten horrific plagues – for the Egyptian Pharaoh to relent and let the Jewish people be free.

Not only that – once Pharaoh had a change of heart, it required the Divine to part the Red Sea to assist the fleeing Hebrew people.

A lot of effort, nu?

Part 2: radical change requires radical trust

You do not need to be thinner, smarter, faster or funnier. Salvation does not reside in imitating anyone else, no matter how popular or cool or rich or powerful they may seem. All you need to live happily is to listen to the beat of your own unique drum, which only you can hear. Follow it, even if it seems to take you to the ends of the earth. You have no choice; that is your journey.  You can live it, or choose a life of death and pretend. There is no in-between. Your soul is calling, and the world desperately needs you to fulfill what you were born to create.

Jonathan Bender

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