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You have a vision. There’s something beckoning to you. Are you really doing it justice? Are you stepping up to fulfill the highest version of your vision, that’s of service to the most people?

Whether it’s an event, a service you’d like to offer, or even a party you’re throwing for a loved one, let it be the complete expression of love that you hold for your dear ones and for the world. Give – and you’ll get much in return.

Note: this is different then egotistical, grandiose thinking. Simplicity is divine, and don’t seek to unnecessarily complicate things. Be aware, instead, whether you’re holding back due to a sense of lack or fear of being unsupported. This is a sign to dream and expand your thinking. Many are waiting.

Action: Think about what you’re doing these days. Choose one thing that’s especially important. Imagine how far it could go, and what would be of greatest service. Then ask the universe for assistance – as well as real people. Play full out, and make this world what you truly desire it to be.

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How daring are you in your life? Most of the time we act fairly conservatively – out of habit, and out of self-protection. The familiar is safe. As is gradual change.

But sometimes we are called upon to create a radical shift. Unfortunately, this often happens negatively – a car crash, losing a job, or a sudden illness – which forces us to reevaluate what we hold dear, and adjust accordingly.

But you don’t have to wait for something awful to happen to make a big change. And maybe, just maybe, you can simply step into that brighter light that wants to be expressed: the next version of you.

Action: Breathe. Close your eyes. Listen… closely. What is waiting to be born? What in you needs to come out?

The essence of purifying our energy comes from releasing what we don’t need and no longer serves us. For those of us who have very busy schedules, we’re constantly inundated with filling other people’s needs.

Taking a personal retreat is a powerful way to reclaim your own space, your own power, and your own energy. Ideally this would be 2-3 days. For example, one of my favorite things in the world is spending a spell at Wilbur Hot Springs – then I get personal space plus incredible, healing waters, hikes in nature… the whole package.

But even designating a few hours – to be utterly, unapologetically self-indulgent – is wonderful. Just to be totally clear, this is something you deserve. Which you should not apologize for, nor justify. Remember: the better you take care of yourself, the more you can authentically be there for others.

Action: This Memorial Day weekend – or any weekend! – carve out time just for you. Give yourself that precious gift, which no one else can provide for you.

I yearn to live in the woods, but my coaching practice and my theater company dictate that I be easily accessible to those who desire to work with me. While a house in the woods or by the sea isn’t too far in the future, I live in an urban area – and even though I’m a block from a beautiful lake, there’s definitely more “people energy” here than nature energy.

How about you? Are you surrounded by trees, water and earth, or do you need to make time to get into nature? Yes, simply being in nature is quite cleansing. It’s essential that it’s a location that resonates with you, and what you need. Sometimes a walk on the beach may do it, and at other times a 4-day camping trip may be in order. Regardless, try this exercise. I love doing it with a California Redwood, but any can do.

Action: Sit with your back to a large tree. Imagine your energy flowing down its roots into the earth, and also up the trunk into the sky. Ask that all that no longer serves you be released. Breathe into yourself the grounding energy of the tree, and the earth coming up into you.

When I feel grumpy, weighed down, and out of sorts, I know it’s time for my one failsafe means for cleansing out my energy: water. When possible, I go to hot springs, but this isn’t always feasible based on my schedule. So I take an Epsom salt bath, with my own particular ritual. Most importantly, it’s a hot bath (unless it’s late at night, when the heat can keep you up), with a ton of Epsom salt baths. Soaking for at least 30 minutes – maybe even an hour – does the trick. I also visualize, along with deep breathing, everything that is not mine (or even my own energy that no longer serves me) being released.

And afterward? A freezing, cold shower. No, I don’t like this part. Yelling helps. But it closes off my energy from outside sources. I learned this technique from an elder sage, and it’s served me well.

Note: If you try it, I recommend leaving some time to yourself afterward – preferably at least a couple of hours – to adjust to your new and lighter energy.

Next: Earth

I have a weakness: I’m empathic. Yes, of course this is a strength, and I utilize it every day with my coaching clients. They love it, because I know what’s truly happening with them. Another “happy problem”: I’m also a healer. My coaching, even when focusing on speaking skills, is transformational, because my clients not only learn great technique, but also change longstanding patterns that get in their way. Often without even trying, I’m doing intensive energy work on them to help them truly release what’s old and embrace their authentic selves.

Yes, it’s powerful, and I love to do it. But at the end of the day, or after several days, I’m worn down. It’s as if my energy was clogged up with gunk that needs to be unstuck. Even though I utilize and teach visualization and other means for moving energy, it’s still a problem for me.

You may feel similarly. What to do? We’ll spend the next several days laying out practical techniques – with the elements as a framework ­– to release what’s unneeded, and to assist with moving back to your pure self.

First technique: Water

You know that you need to deal with the hard issues. But it’s not fun. Perhaps there’s an easy approach to it, eh? How about the idea that you actually don’t have to try? Here’s a little procedure:

  1. Think of something that really needs addressing. It could be an email or phone call that needs taking care of, or even a task you’ve been putting off.
  2. Picture it in front of you. Take long, deep breaths while visualizing it.
  3. Whatever image that comes up for you, imagine it getting smaller and smaller. As you breathe more deeply, let yourself get larger and more spacious.
  4. Know that whatever needs doing is already done. It’s in the past. All you have to do is step  over and do it, and it’ll nicely be behind you.
Really, it’s all about our frame of mind. Let it be simple – the work, much of the time, is in the avoidance. So try this technique out. Send me your results.

I just saw a blog post put on a LinkedIn group to which I belong. It followed the correct marketing structure to grab people’s attention – “5 Ways to…” – and had a title that pulled in attention: “5 ways to Take the Anxiety Out of Public Speaking.” Now, since I coach clients on this every day, I was intrigued to see how someone else would do it. Was it different than my work? Effective?

Unfortunately, I was quite disappointed. The author suggested that a nervous speaker simply make sure to include standard speech components, like a strong structure, to alleviate nervousness, and to only make eye contact with the “friendly” faces. But to someone who’s nervous, this false reassurance does bupkus (Yiddish for “zilch”). They’re still freaked out.

Part 2: How can we address core issues, rather than a polite nod toward them? How does true transformation happen?

I had a dream  recently where I was watching a play – not terribly surprising, since I’m a theater creator, director and performer (my other hat aside from being a coach). In the dream, I had watched the play more than once, always from the same seat. However, for some reason I needed to watch it again – from a new angle. So went to a different seat in the theater – and it looked dramatically different! Some characters loomed larger than others, and it was a completely different experience.

When we change our perspective, we radically alter our experience. Sometimes this happens dramatically, through a life-altering event; other times, we have a gradual shift, for better or worse.

Action: Think of something in your life that isn’t ideal. Look at it differently – perhaps by literally going to a real location you don’t normally visit, and thinking about it there . Or, imagine how someone else might deal with it – perhaps someone richer or poorer, with different color skin, or from another country. Your ideas about the situation are solely that – ideas. A new perspective will give you some fresh ones.

Nervousness, fear and discomfort typically arise because we’re afraid of being judged. Rejected. Turned away. Maybe even lynched. (Well, it’s unlikely, but it sometimes feels like it could happen, doesn’t it?)

In fact, this is a fundamental misunderstanding, which most of us have, about what people actually are seeking. Whether you’re talking with someone individually or speaking to an audience of 10,000, everyone wants to be inspired, energized, and moved. In other words, everyone wants you to be great!

And, in my experience, even those who are critical or jaded are actually hoping you’ll save the day. At a job interview where they’re asking hard questions? They want to hire someone. They’d love to save more of their time by that wonderful person being you!

Action: Instead of waiting for someone else to take the first step, wherever you are, go first and speak with positive, bright energy. They’ll be thankful, and look to you for inspiration. …What’s could be more powerful than that?


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