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So now we have a fuller understanding of the difficulties and obstacles to speaking the truth, or telling to ourselves. So – solutions!

Actions:

  1. Speak from your perspective, and acknowledge that it’s not The Ultimate Truth. By saying, “I feel” or “From my perspective…” it allows others to hear you better.
  2. Disconnect your truth from judgment. Remember – your “truth” is likely not a fact. By stating it cleanly and simply, it creates room for someone else to hear more.
  3. When talking to others, say what feels like the essence. There’s a difference between saying what needs to be said, and processing/thinking out loud.
  4. If you feel yourself not wanting to admit something – to someone or even to yourself – that’s a sign that you’re not in touch with the deeper meaning of things. Try writing out several possibilities of what it could mean – and look for what gives you the biggest feeling of relief.
  5. No matter what… be kind. To yourself, and to whomever else you speak.

When you have said the real deal, you’ll attract to your life what you want – and ready the way for it to come.

When we try to speak the truth, several things may happen, including:

  1. The truth can out too strongly if we feel we won’t otherwise be heard.
  2. We may not really communicate the full power of what we mean, so the other person doesn’t get it (or take our own feelings seriously enough).
  3. If we hold back and try to spare someone else’s feelings, we end up hurting them more in the end.
  4. We may have a fear of being judged. Or not heard. Or disregarded.
  5. We may worry about saying too much, or not know what is appropriate under the circumstances (and don’t want to have verbal diarrhea).
  6. And, when we try to tell ourselves the truth, we may judge ourselves or think it’s not okay to be so up front.

Part 4: Solutions.

What’s even a more troublesome situation than lying to others is when we lie to ourselves. Perhaps we try to convince ourselves that a situation is alright, when in fact it really isn’t. Whether this is a relationship, a work situation, or an aspect of your own life that you’d like to change, it’s common to simply shove these thoughts and discomfort aside. Because we’re afraid to rock the boat. Because we fear that it might take too much work to really create transformation. Because we’re afraid that We Aren’t Good Enough.

Of course, the idea that you’re not enough is the greatest self-deception. Because you’re acquiescing your own power, and choosing to not take action.

It begins, though, with simply admitting what is true – and speaking it. Yes, out loud.

Part 3: Common stumbling blocks.


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