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For many, being an effective speaker is a mystery; for others, they feel fairly comfortable and think that’s all they need. Since speaking is the best way to get known as an expert and build your business, it’s important to really know how it works. Over the past 17 years of coaching public speaking, I’ve developed a thorough breakdown of everything necessary to speak powerfully. It can be categorized into 3 levels.

Level One – The Core Foundations 

  • Strong Content. It’s essential to know how to put together a great presentation – how to grab attention at the beginning, keep your audience members engaged both emotionally and intellectually, and move them to want to work with you or follow your call to action.
  • Comfort – turning nervousness into confidence. This is a curious skill, because when most people hit a new edge (for some, just speaking at all – and for others, it’s presenting in front of a much bigger audience or with higher stakes), then they get nervous – even if they’re confident otherwise. Other aspects of comfort:
    •  Knowing how to warm up for a presentation, and how to recover if you lose your mojo mid-way through.
    •  The inner mindset – how you treat yourself (are you critical? Fearful? Or self-accepting and caring for yourself?).
  • Effective Use of Voice.
    •  Clear Enunciation. Don’t make the audience struggle to understand you.
    •  No Fillers, such as “Um.” If these are largely present, they’ll undermine your credibility.
  • Powerful Body Language. This includes several areas:
    •  How to completely relax. Body tension will hurt your presence as well as your voice.
    •  How to stand. The right position will cause to both look and feel more confident.
    •  How to walk. Aimless wandering or pacing will hurt; deliberate steps and walks will guide your audience through your presentation.
    •  Gestures. Those hands aren’t just meant to dangle there!
    •  Facial expressions. These also help establish connection, while they bring out more  of your personality.
  • Connection. You simply must authentically connect with your audience in order to move them. There are 9 aspects of connection, 7 of which are pertinent to speaking, so it’s a long topic, but you need to begin with connecting with… yourself.
    •  Eye contact. Strong eye contact will cause every person in the audience – no matter how large it is – to feel like you’re speaking directly to them.

Level Two – Presence

Presence isn’t an intangible, and it’s not a pat answer. Here are the most important components:

  • Integrated Comfort and Connection. When you learn to easily get yourself into a state of being where you are both fully at ease, and also deeply connected with your audience (and with yourself!), you’ll be on your way.
  • Staying Fully Centered. Few people can do this under great pressure; those who can become leaders. Knowing how to breathe deeply is a good start – and many other exercises help with this.
  • Enhancing the Voice. This includes finding a more resonant, relaxed voice. It’ll then literally resonate more fully with your audience.

Level Three – The Dynamic, Charismatic Speaker

  • Advanced Vocal Dynamics. Mastering how – and when – to utilize and combine pitch, tempo, volume, pausing, enunciation variation, and tone will help you hold the audience’s rapt attention at all times.
    • There are also 4 powerful speaking styles, which you can use effectively (more difficult to describe in brief, so I’ll leave it at that).
  • Advanced Body Language. Beyond the basics, there is a deeper level of movement available to you. Yoga is a good start; movement techniques used by actors and dancers will take you even farther.
  • Mastering Emotion. Acting techniques will help you find a fuller range of emotion to express yourself and move the audience.
  • Charisma. While the above elements help bring it out (especially when they’re combined), this also arises from more advanced acting techniques.
  • Professionally Crafted Content. While the standards for crafting a talk work at all levels, to move to another level, the content is fused with emotions. That is, everything you say is deeply stirring or moving – no matter what the topic.

What level are most speakers at?

Unfortunately, I’ve found that the majority of speakers who don’t suffer from a lot of fear are somewhere around mid-level 1. That is, they feel somewhat comfortable, but still really need to master the essentials of body language and the voice. The sad part is that because they feel a little confident, they don’t get the help they need to really step up their game.

Want to learn these skills quickly, instead of taking years figuring it out yourself?

My training program, Claim Your Voice: Speak with Power and Presence, covers Levels 1 and 2. There’s less emphasis on content, which is easier to implement; thorough guidelines are provided for participants to apply themselves. The biggest difficulties in speaking lie in all of the other areas, which are far trickier and more nuanced.

Even if you’re doing okay right now, you may have little idea how much better you can be! When you transform your connection skills, body language, presence, and mindset, the audience will be completely yours.

If you’re ready to step into your  full potential as a speaker, you are warmly invited. Please go to http://www.ClaimYourVoiceNow.com for full details and to register.

And, if you’d like another perspective and hear me speak about it, watch a free video training at http://www.yourtruevoice.org.

–Jonathan Bender, MS, MFA, WholeSpeak  – http://www.WholeSpeak.com

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So now we have a fuller understanding of the difficulties and obstacles to speaking the truth, or telling to ourselves. So – solutions!

Actions:

  1. Speak from your perspective, and acknowledge that it’s not The Ultimate Truth. By saying, “I feel” or “From my perspective…” it allows others to hear you better.
  2. Disconnect your truth from judgment. Remember – your “truth” is likely not a fact. By stating it cleanly and simply, it creates room for someone else to hear more.
  3. When talking to others, say what feels like the essence. There’s a difference between saying what needs to be said, and processing/thinking out loud.
  4. If you feel yourself not wanting to admit something – to someone or even to yourself – that’s a sign that you’re not in touch with the deeper meaning of things. Try writing out several possibilities of what it could mean – and look for what gives you the biggest feeling of relief.
  5. No matter what… be kind. To yourself, and to whomever else you speak.

When you have said the real deal, you’ll attract to your life what you want – and ready the way for it to come.

When we try to speak the truth, several things may happen, including:

  1. The truth can out too strongly if we feel we won’t otherwise be heard.
  2. We may not really communicate the full power of what we mean, so the other person doesn’t get it (or take our own feelings seriously enough).
  3. If we hold back and try to spare someone else’s feelings, we end up hurting them more in the end.
  4. We may have a fear of being judged. Or not heard. Or disregarded.
  5. We may worry about saying too much, or not know what is appropriate under the circumstances (and don’t want to have verbal diarrhea).
  6. And, when we try to tell ourselves the truth, we may judge ourselves or think it’s not okay to be so up front.

Part 4: Solutions.

What’s even a more troublesome situation than lying to others is when we lie to ourselves. Perhaps we try to convince ourselves that a situation is alright, when in fact it really isn’t. Whether this is a relationship, a work situation, or an aspect of your own life that you’d like to change, it’s common to simply shove these thoughts and discomfort aside. Because we’re afraid to rock the boat. Because we fear that it might take too much work to really create transformation. Because we’re afraid that We Aren’t Good Enough.

Of course, the idea that you’re not enough is the greatest self-deception. Because you’re acquiescing your own power, and choosing to not take action.

It begins, though, with simply admitting what is true – and speaking it. Yes, out loud.

Part 3: Common stumbling blocks.


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